VulvaLove was created to improve sexual health. VulvaLove educates and empowers girls and women to make the most informed choices about their bodies, sexuality, and intimate relationships by providing comprehensive, fact-based sex education.
In our modern world, few have access to unbiased, evidence-based information about sexual anatomy and sexual function. Junior high sex ed, media outlets, and medical clinicians often present a limited picture of what vulvas and vaginas look like, not to mention how they work.
As a result, many women worry their genitals aren’t “normal.” In truth, there is no one “normal.” As the body positive movement is helping us to remember, women come in all shapes, sizes, and colors. Their vulvas and vaginas do, too. Understanding genital diversity is a key component of body positivity, which in itself is vital for physical, mental, and emotional wellbeing. In fact, studies show that positive genital self-esteem improves women’s overall body image, as well as their sexual safety and satisfaction.
We know that many women can hardly imagine loving—let alone liking—their genitals as they are. We understand. That’s why we’re here.
At VulvaLove, we believe knowledge is power. Gaining awareness is the first step toward accepting the personal uniqueness of all vulvas and vaginas. It’s our goal to provide comprehensive, judgment-free education about female anatomy, arousal, and satisfaction. And, we don’t preach one model of sexual expression—a person’s relationship to their sex and sexuality is theirs to decide.
An integral part of our vision is reframing the conversation around sexual pain and pleasure. Although they might seem like polar opposites, pain and pleasure are two sides of the same coin. Rather than treating pain or lack of pleasure as symptoms of sexual dysfunction, we advocate for exploring body, mind, and emotion to uncover their root causes. This self-knowledge can lead to lasting, affirming solutions.
To that end, we offer valuable resources to guide you toward deep, personal understanding of your desire, arousal, and sexual energy. You can clear away restrictive messages about right and wrong—about clean and dirty, too little and too much—and tap into your elemental human nature. Then, you can freely choose how to communicate and express your unique sexuality.
As you learn about genital diversity and female sexuality, we hope you can find relief from any pain or shame blocking intimacy and joy. You deserve to awaken to the beauty of your body’s potential. You deserve sexual pleasure, whatever it looks like for you. Most importantly, you deserve to become your most liberated, empowered self.
“Sexual health is a state of physical, emotional, mental and social well-being in relation to sexuality; it is not merely the absence of disease, dysfunction or infirmity. Sexual health requires a positive and respectful approach to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence.” (WHO, 2006a)
“Sexual pleasure is the physical and/or psychological satisfaction and enjoyment derived from solitary or shared erotic experiences, including thoughts, dreams and autoeroticism.
Self-determination, consent, safety, privacy, confidence and the ability to communicate and negotiate sexual relations are key enabling factors for pleasure to contribute to sexual health and wellbeing. Sexual pleasure should be exercised within the context of sexual rights, particularly the rights to equality and non-discrimination, autonomy and bodily integrity, the right to the highest attainable standard of health and freedom of expression. The experiences of human sexual pleasure are diverse and sexual rights ensure that pleasure is a positive experience for all concerned and not obtained by violating other people’s human rights and wellbeing.” (GAB, 2016)
Note: Although we celebrate genital and sexual diversity in all its forms, our work does not address issues specific to transgender women or anyone whose discomfort with their genitals stems from gender dysphoria. Our goal is not to exclude, but to discuss a few specific issues impacting women who were born with female genitalia and continue to identify as women.